We talk about “coming out” like it is a single act or event. But coming out, and being out, is not a destination; it is a journey. It is a series of moments, of choices, of tests and challenges about being true to oneself. Coming out, and being out, is about owning your value, and owning the validity of your relationships and your family despite the people and systems that tell you that there is something wrong with you, that you are less than; or, that you are tolerated, but still don’t deserve the rights and privileges of everyone else. It is about deciding how vulnerable you make yourself in routine discussions with a neighbor, the insurance company, or the hair dresser. These are the little moments of revelation that most people take for granted, but they can have significant implications.